Are you always on the hot seat when your mom questions your relationship? Well, here are some tips on how you can handle the situation the next time it happens
With your heart on the line, it’s only natural for another person in your life to be protective, a.k.a your mom. While their worries are understandable, there are times when it feels like they become part of the equation when it comes to making decisions about your own personal romatic relationships. This can sometimes become overwhelming, so how can you go about it without triggering any arguments? Here are few tips you would want to do the next time your mother crosses that boundary.
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Acknowledge their worry
They’re mothers—it’s in their innate nature to worry, and most of the time, it doesn’t even have to be about your relationship. Sometime, it’s also mother’s intuition when they feel like something or someone is wrong for you. At the heart of it all, they just always want what’s best for their children. Once you’ve accepted that fact, it’ll be easier for you to handle the situation without feeling annoyed or frustrated. A little understanding goes a long way.
Make it wholesome
Instead of viewing it as a situation whereing they’re invading your space that you need to fight them off on ASAP, a little shift in perspective might be the key to this. Keeping your mom updated about your relationship will not only ease her nerves, but gain her trust. And since she knows you’re honest with her, she won’t have to pry as much. However, do keep in mind that you don’t have to share every single detail with her. The only thing moms want at the end of the day is that to feel like is that they’re still an important part of your life.
Set your boundaries
We did mention that you should share some information about your relationship, but feel free to tell them your boundaries. Expressing your discomfort in certain topics will save you time from dodging the many questions they are dying to ask and you won’t have to worry about spilling something you shouldn’t in the first place. The key here is to remind them that you are all grown up, independent, and can make your own decisions. After all, they raised you to be that way.
Propose deals
Much like setting your boundaries, sit down with your mom and make a deal with her. Dating someone new? Don’t forget to introduce them to your mom before you leave the house. Going home late? At least give her an honest estimate on what time you may be home so that she knows when to expect you. Remember, these are little things that will help your mom be more trusting with you and your significant other—a very important matter you need to establish.
Go about it healthily
Before anything else, it’s our mothers that showed us unconditional love in the first place. Don’t think about it as something that you owe them with, but look at it as a way to have a healthy relationship with her. Relationships are worth celebrating and not to be stressed over, so handle it with a positive attitude! You never know—this might just be the key to solidifying your relationship with your partner even more.
